Reluctance to make necessary change is a non-productive, but forgivable cowardice.
From the time we are forcibly evicted from the dark safety and warmth of the womb, into the bright-lighted unknown, newness poses potential threat. The subliminal recollection of this unwanted dispossession, soon evolves to a diffidence, a neurotic trend, toward automatically eschewing change; without conscious knowledge of its motivation. Don’t we all rationalize our acts (or reluctance to act) retrospectively, and sometimes even creatively? Our individualized psyche and personal chemistry are formidable opponents to our spontaneity, and even, our free will.
However, such seemingly innate, and understandable, antipathy to change, it appears, often leads to disappointment in life. The baseless impression of “security,” all too often, results in the avoidance of mature growth, emotionally and intellectually. We fearfully and, ignorantly choose to arrest our aspirations in exchange for the prenatal “known”
Change of long-held opinions and beliefs, of routine thinking, professional choice and even, marriage, when the objective facts clearly indicate, however strenuous and painful, may lead to a satisfying life, a sense of self-realization, and, even joy.
Usually, when change is thrust upon us by circumstance, the forced readjustment and the imperative acceptance of altered circumstances results in a mandated new “normalcy.”
We must negotiate in earnest and bravely with our personal unconscious and innate perceptions of safety and security and venture on.
The realization and discovery that change feels dangerous and wrong, in various degrees, is universally shared but where overcome may lead to joy.
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