Blog #20 Love Without Words

It may just be that the most articulate and effective communication is expressed without verbal language.

In the world of great symphonic music, Mendelssohn’s “Songs Without Words” is an expression of truly great aesthetic beauty and emotion.

Upon reflection, it would seem that the most important and aesthetic form of communication is expressed without the need for vocabulary. It is a language not effectively tutored or learned from Berlitz. To be sure, even a competent analysis of the original Rosetta Stone, now residing peacefully, after multiple larcenies, in the British Museum in London, would not reveal a clue or heirographic concerning it.

It is probably the only language that can be learned, but not taught. It effects peace, friendship and bonding between people(s) when employed; its avoidance promotes isolation, insularity, selfishness and a perceived meaningless existence.

“Empathy” is the word and category of language.  Everyone has presumably, sufficient knowledge of its definition but, in many cases, insufficient experience with its practical application.

The inclination, or aptitude to sufficiently and genuinely feel for other human beings; the sincere mitigation of the constructs of “I”, “we” and “they,” are what distinguishes us from the dinosaur. Unfortunately, we all know too many 21st Century dinosaurs who view others as objects.

The institution of religion has always preached empathy. Unfortunately, history shows that differing religious beliefs have all too often led to conflict and suffering and the message gets lost.

Not too many decades ago, there was a well- intentioned movement to create and  promulgate  a universal, international language, [“Esperanto”]  in the belief that the employment of a common language by all peoples would mitigate national and ethnic differences and that, as a consequence, peace and brotherhood  would ensue .It was a dismal failure.

What may work for mankind is the non-verbal language (analogous to “Songs without Words”) of human empathy.

The exercised ability to empathize with others leads to friendship, bonding and the feeling of shared life. It opens us up for educative and soul-satisfying experiences and may be the only path to peace.

Nor should laudable and humanistic feelings and acts be restricted to holidays. Thanksgiving   and Christmas dinners for the homeless are commendable and should be continued. Yet the expression of charity and compassion throughout the year would be even more empathetic.

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Blog #19 Silent Soliloquy

To whom can one speak as well as to oneself?  True, healthy and effective communication with others and success in life may in large part depend upon the relative nexus between “societally acceptable” “reality” and one’s personal, private perception.

This writing does not deal with the investigative search for truth in the sciences; one can only assume (hopefully) that criteria governing the conduct of scientific exploration are objective and are being faithfully observed.

In the areas of human interaction, differing standards of morality, philosophical thought and recollection of past experiences, result in conflicting views of reality and complicate the search for “truth.” Indeed, such differences as may lead to varying perceptions of reality or,” truth” may be non-productive, and in the worst case, dangerous.

“Where you stand depends upon where you sit” regrettably, is an all too common formulation in the understanding of interpretation of fact and experience.  Unfortunately, there would seem in life to be no effective reality except that which impresses itself upon our personal perception.

Is the pasta sauce too hot and spicy or not hot enough?  Am I really too busy, or is it my mood? Is he travelling too fast or not? Is he a freedom fighter or an insurgent rebel? Our judgment may depend upon our mood at the time of observation, our interpretation of past experience, and our private biases.

Honest and truthful witnesses, at trial and under solemn oath,   may testify to diametrically opposed versions of the material facts of the case; recollected language, employed in a spousal row, may significantly vary as to vocabulary; long ago experience may, upon its   retelling, take on a tone and context dependent upon the teller’s worldview.

It is, unfortunately, not true that there is an answer to every problem; no way of looking up the correct answer in the back of the algebra textbook.

This is not to say that there are no difficult problems that can be solved by the application of logic and good sense. For example when p. was a high school student, he won two “chunky bars” by solving the age-old chicken egg question. P. correctly reasoned that the egg came first which egg was laid by the creature that was one step in evolution before the chicken. That hatched egg was the first chicken.

However, most serious problems appear to be not  solvable by logic nor  empirical demonstration The problem of differences in perception is one  of  life’s imponderables but one of which every thoughtful person must crucially aware and understand and tolerate.

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Blog #18 Humor, No Laughing Matter

Out of 17th Century Spain,  brought to your local theaters by the same iconic producers and directors that brought you the box office boffos, Columbus (see pliny blog #2) and the Spanish  Inquisition comes the  daring expedition of discovery of  nobleman,  Juan  Ponce de Leon.

The goal was to discover the (mythical) “Fountain of   Youth” which by some colossally funny finger of fate, brought him to the State of Florida, slated to become the Mecca of the elderly retiree.

Had de Leon been possessed (in theory) of a crystal ball which would have enabled him to see the laughable nature and the future of his enterprise, he and his retinue might have and been afforded some benefit, from that hilarious vision.

Modern scientists, of every stripe, are in complete agreement in ascribing to laughter, positive effects, such as physical relaxation,   relief from tension, even the enhancement of the immune system, perhaps, longevity.

Down through the ages, the contagious nature of laughter (studies show, more contagious than coughing and sneezing) has brought people together, reduced physical pain and has had numerous and varied salubrious benefits.

Authoritative studies of the effects of laughter show that it improves the mind, lends helpful perspective to disappointing or perplexing situations and reduces conflict.

To p., the greatest and most remarkable property of spontaneous laughter, is that it adds joy and zest to life.

Laughter is our birthright, is innate, inborn and, by the way, free.

Those who cannot see the lighter side of life, may find much less joy in their  life than persons with significant physical handicaps who do  have a sense of humor.

Someone should have told our friend Ponce, that the fountain, like all important things, is inside him.

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Blog #17 THE ISIS CRISIS

It is becoming manifestly evident that military operations, specifically, aerial bombing of Isis strongholds, is not the most effective response to this murderous, atavistic horde.  These zealots would, consistent with their purpose and goal, prefer to portray a fictional context of a war between civilizations.  Traditional warfare (“boots on the ground”) would seem to play into their barbaric aspirations (not to mention the issue of collateral damage).

It seems to p that wholesale and warm welcoming of Syrian refugees would be a public and historic demonstration that Isis’ avowed attempts to portray its goals as the creation of a paradise, is far from credible. Vetting may be necessary in many cases, but the admission of these desperate refugee families and individuals, who have risked death to flee the nascent caliphate, would be a clear, public refutation of Isis’ opium-dream like portrayal of its principles and aspirational goals.

It would also be in keeping with our tradition as a haven for humanity in trouble.

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Blog #16 Anger in Orbit

The metallic clang of the sunshine-

Resonates in trees and dry bushes

Fearful critters peer out of sandy burrows-

At the menacing light

River banks, stoically, endure relentless abrading

As surges of super-heated streams-

Flood the planet, sunami-style

By instinct, predatory insects set out

For their daily kill

In a perfumed theater of lethal carnage

While mankind, diverted by its ducks and music-

Ignores tectonic fury and gorges on.

pliny (attrib. Leonard N. Shapiro (2015)

Blog #15 Growing Changes

Reluctance to make necessary change is a non-productive, but forgivable cowardice.

From the time we are forcibly evicted from the dark safety and warmth of the womb, into the bright-lighted unknown, newness poses potential threat. The subliminal recollection of this unwanted dispossession, soon evolves to a diffidence, a neurotic trend, toward automatically eschewing change; without conscious knowledge of its motivation. Don’t we all rationalize our acts (or reluctance to act) retrospectively, and sometimes even creatively?  Our individualized psyche and personal chemistry are formidable opponents to our spontaneity, and even, our free will.

However, such seemingly innate, and understandable, antipathy to change, it appears, often leads to disappointment in life. The baseless impression of “security,” all too often, results in the avoidance of mature growth, emotionally and intellectually. We fearfully and, ignorantly choose to arrest our aspirations in exchange for the prenatal “known”

Change of long-held opinions and beliefs, of routine thinking, professional choice and even, marriage, when the objective facts clearly indicate, however strenuous and painful, may lead to a satisfying life, a sense of self-realization, and, even joy.

Usually, when change is thrust upon us by circumstance, the forced readjustment and the imperative acceptance of altered circumstances results in a mandated new “normalcy.”

We must negotiate in earnest and bravely with our personal unconscious and innate   perceptions of safety and security and venture on.

The realization and discovery that change feels dangerous and wrong, in various degrees, is universally shared   but where overcome may lead to joy.

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Blog #14 Retirement Epiphany

A hypotenuse of pale yellow light

Illumines a small cracked collar button

Fresh- evicted from its domicile of utility

Bereft of the tactual industry-

Of intimately engaged fingertips

Lying in the roadbed, clinging to thread-

Supine, solitary, estranged and unmarked

But, suddenly, reveling in the joyous discovery

An unobstructed view of blue sky!

pliny (attrib. to Leonard N. Shapiro, 2012)

 

 

 

 

Blog #13 The Birth of Julsie

A BUD STIRS

A brightly colored bud-

If you look closely

Has already spoken change

A subtle parting, a movement of tight-wrapped, nascent petals

May be observed

Pristine droplets of clear rainwater-

Invest the developing bloom

A ladybug performs its mandatory reconnaissance-

Climbing up to peer at the future

A colorful butterfly alights so briefly

Knowing instinctively-

Beauty and Fragrance is on the way

pliny  (attrib. to Leonard N. Shapiro, 2012)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Blog #12 Dining Out, The Tipping Point

The final act invariably punctuating the restaurant dining event is the gratuity, or “tip”. While technically, and legally, understood to be voluntary, the gesture is required by our notions of acceptable behavior and etiquette. Reviled are those who “stiff” a server.

It is commonly (and, I am sure, incorrect) to identify the word, “tips” as an acronym for the phrase “to insure prompt service”. Were that so, the concept cannot compete with rational sense; the gesture is at best, an expo- facto judgment,  since it is calculated, given or refused after the  meal.

Indeed, why shouldn’t every service be reasonably timely? Why should anyone be rewarded for simply doing his job?  Shouldn’t the service of a meal be prompt without an expectation of a later bribe?

Don’t gratuities also express the degree of our satisfaction with the cuisine?  This is clearly not relevant to prompt  service. Should tips be given to the chef and kitchen staff? Others?

Good food and prompt service should entirely be the responsibility of the management; should be expected and taken for granted. Bad service should be unusual.

I have a friend who described his incompetent and inattentive waiter  as  “someone who had performed the geometric miracle of having his back turned to everyone”. This should be a rarity.

Restaurant owners should pay their staff fairly and not oblige their patrons to subsidize inadequate wages . Good restaurants are revisited by diners  when the food and service are good.

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Blog #10 Perennial Joy

It may be significant that in the mythical (biblical) Garden of Eden the name of man’s progenitor is “Adam”, which means “: earth” in ancient Hebrew. The expression “Mother Earth” may be a subliminal acknowledgment of our origin. .Ancient rituals and religious worship often centered on agriculture and fertility The worship of Nature, for millennia, led fearful folks to fear that in winter the earth died (except for  the miraculous evergreen trees and plants) only to celebrate its rebirth the following Spring.

There has always been an invisible and uncut umbilical cord between humankind and the soil and planet (note the coincidental similarity between the words “planet” and “plant”.

Most people seek relaxation and escape in natural surroundings (“regain normalcy”). The great poet, William Wordsworth found a religious worship in Nature (pantheism).

P. would earnestly recommend gardening and plant culture (even in a window box or planter) The pleasure of creating and nurturing new plant life often is an assurance of ” continuance ”  and  ” renewal.”  Growing flowers and plants is a perennial source of aesthetic pleasure, and an outlet for spontaneous creativity. It may by extension, even be a wholesome lesson in reproduction, especially for children.

Above all, it is a great joy!

Gardening activities produces happiness; .it is hard to find many people who would be reluctant to increase their joy in life.

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